Saturday, September 18, 2010
Why Keeping Score Is Disastrous In Relationships.
Keeping score only works in competitive sports; It’s disastrous in relationships. There is so much good in the worst of us and so much bad in the best of us , that we’ll spend much of our lives learning to forgive and forget. And forgetting is harder when the offences can be forgiven quickly; big ones require a healing process. But until you make the decision to forgive, the process can’t even begin.
How can you forgive as quickly and completely as possible? Clothe yourselves with tender-hearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive anyone who offends you. To practice this kind of forgiveness you must focus on a person’s worth not their weakness. You must turn your heart away from what was, to what can be. You say. Why should I forgive and forget?
a) Because you yourself will continue to need forgiveness
b) Because you weren’t built to carry the stress that goes with resentment.