Do It While You Still can

When you lose a loved one, you realize that relationships are more important than possessions, but we forget that in our sramble to the top of the heap, being told you have only a short time to live puts you into shock, then re-orders your priorities. It makes you want to fill each precious moment with the words you’ve neglected to do. Don’t allow self-certredness to keep you from showing love to those who need it. Make that call, send that email, buy those flowers. Say ‘I love you’. In other words, ‘be there’ most of the time people don’t need our wise analysis or brilliant answers, they just need our love and support and they’ll will find their own answers

The son of a well-know missionary stood at his dad’s grave without shedding a tear. He told someone, ‘you never miss what you never had’. My dad loved people on the other side of the world, but I’m not sure he loved me. wake up! The clock is ticking and the days are flying by. Yes, you must fulfil your assignment but not at the cost of the people that matter

Why Keeping Score Is Disastrous In Relationships.

Jimmy drank too much at the party and embarrassed his wife lisa.Next morning he felt bad and asked her to forgive him. She said she would, yet she kept bringing it up. One day in discouragement he said, “ I thought you were going to forgive and forget”. She said, ‘I have. I just don’t want you to forget that I have forgiven and forgetten.’ Do you forgive like that?

Keeping score only works in competitive sports; It’s disastrous in relationships. There is so much good in the worst of us and so much bad in the best of us , that we’ll spend much of our lives learning to forgive and forget. And forgetting is harder when the offences can be forgiven quickly; big ones require a healing process. But until you make the decision to forgive, the process can’t even begin.

How can you forgive as quickly and completely as possible? Clothe yourselves with tender-hearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive anyone who offends you. To practice this kind of forgiveness you must focus on a person’s worth not their weakness. You must turn your heart away from what was, to what can be. You say. Why should I forgive and forget?

a) Because you yourself will continue to need forgiveness
b) Because you weren’t built to carry the stress that goes with resentment.